I wasn’t always FREE

I wasn’t always FULFILLED

I wasn’t always FEARLESS

That’s why I’m here to show you The Path!

In January of 2004, my world came crashing down. The man that I’d loved and built my world with passed away suddenly. Now, there is nothing that anyone could tell a 29-year young widow and mother of five children ages 13-5. The death of my first husband sent me into a downward spiral, I was drowning deep in the abyss of sorrow and despair. I knew that I had to survive for the sake of my five minor children but at times I felt like I was the “walking dead”. Going through the motions of living but not fully engaged and connected with LIFE itself.  I knew exactly what I needed to DO. My role as a mother, provider, protector and the list goes on and on was extremely apparent. I knew what to DO but I had no clue how to BE!  My epiphany came one day when a friend called right before the holidays. He asked me one simple question that changed the trajectory of my life. You see, if you ask yourself the wrong questions the answer doesn’t matter… From this experience, I learned how to “Dig DEEP” and ask the tough questions that most people either fail to ask or try to avoid. The quality of questions that we ask ourselves shapes the quality of our lives. Most people did not know the depth of my pain because I disguised it well beneath the accolades of achievements. Although I’d dropped out in the 8th and never experienced going to High School, I was able to earn my Bachelors Degree and literally climbed the Corporate Ladder from the mailroom directly to the C-Suite. However, in the midnight hour in my bathroom with the water running I wept. I wept until I could not feel anything. This further fueled the DO’ER in me. The BE’ER felt emotions that she could not process..

The need to please and achieve ruled me like a puppet master. My strings were pulled on a daily basis as I tried to maintain a tempo of “acts of services” that I was not designed for. In fact, most of us were not designed to perform. I was faced with the stark reality so I made a choice. No one was coming to rescue me. No one had the answer because the answer was within me. I was my answer and you are the answer and the hero of your story! The shift took place when I decided to stop! To stop fighting the process and rushing through the journey. I was trying to create my epiphany but you can’t force it, it simply has to come. And when it came sister, it propelled me into a flow and for an entire year, I push myself. I challenged everything that was familiar to me. I dismantled the brick wall that was keeping others out and confining me in… I tore it down… brick by brick by brick until I was FREE!I challenged the mental blocks until I delved deep enough to discover the root of my issues and the layers began to fall away. What I saw was astonishing. A woman who was PERFECTLY IMPERFECT and she was FABULOUS! She was FREE from all of the unnecessary baggage.